You Will Not Be Happy Later

Don't be happy later.

It is disempowering to yourself when you hold the belief that "I will be happy when..."


When I'm married....
When I'm making more money....
When the weekend comes....
When I eat desert....
When I get laid....


The truth is, no you will not. You will have a temporary satiation of your desire. And that will bring temporary satisfaction and contentment.
If it's really great you might have a moment or two of ecstasy. And then it will be done.


We create all kinds of stories about why we are not happy, or can't be happy. You might believe deep down, that you don't deserve to be happy or haven't earned the right to be happy. Or you might even believe that you don't know how to be happy - or that you were never taught how to be happy.

You might believe that if you were happy for no reason, that you would lose all desire and motivation to accomplish anything or take any action in life. This idea just another way we justify torturing ourselves and suffering more than we need to.

You can let yourself be happy in this moment, for absolutely no reason at all. Nothing outside of you, no sensory experience, no pleasure seeking can give you what you really desire. Our happiness does not require anything beyond your own existence. Even opening up to the very possibility of this will elevate your vibration.


In every moment you can stop indulging in worry, fear, guilt and anger and choose to just be at peace. It requires your permission to allow yourself this happiness for no reason. You don't have to earn it or fight for it or struggle for it, or look for it, or discover it, or do penance for it. It is yours if you dare to allow yourself. But it must be for no reason at all.


As long as you place any preconditions on being happy then it will never be possible.


Be happy now. Choose it. Say it out loud to yourself. Say it all day if you have to. "I choose to be Happy Now."

(Notice this is different than saying "I am Happy")

What if you are miserable, in pain, scared, stressed, depressed... but you keep saying "I'm happy." You will know you are lying to yourself and it won't have much positive effect. It will probably even make you feel worse!

But if you say -- "I choose to be Happy, no matter what... I choose to be happy in this moment... I choose to be happy anyway..." You begin to empower yourself. You create an opening. A sense of hope. Because it is a truth, not a lie - that you have the power inside you - that you are the power - you are IT. You do not have to wait for something out there to save you. Even waiting for something from inside you to save you is the same thing. Decide and do it NOW. "I choose in this moment to be happy. I will keep making this choice."


There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the relief you feel when you surrender to your Self. Happiness is the natural outcome of raising your vibration. You can raise your vibration by telling a positive story about yourself and your life. Practicing selfless compassion towards others is another way. Higher vibration attracts more high vibrations. You become a positive magnet for positive people, experiences, and situations.

And what if something challenging, painful, difficult or adverse shows up in your life? Does it mean you're doing it wrong? Is it your fault? Are you a failure at life? NO!

Don't catastrophize it. Don't create more emotional drama around it. Whatever shows up in your life, it is your interpretation – the meaning you give to it – that causes the most turmoil and pain about it. Own your feelings about it, feel them, and be steady. Adversity tests us to see if we can stay rooted in our inner Self without getting swallowed up by the world. Don't view your emotions as a problem, no matter what you are feeling. And no matter what you feel, still choose to be okay in this moment.


Become conscious of the story you are telling yourself about this difficult situation. Are you telling yourself that you can only be happy if this situation goes away? Or if it is the way you expect it to be, or want it to be? Happiness and peace are innate qualities of your deepest essence. Choose to focus on your innermost Self and let go of trying to control the world.


There is no better use of your mental and emotional energy than making this choice in every conscious moment that you can.


Peace to you.



Ask yourself:
What is the life story that I am telling myself? Am I the hero or the victim of my story? Is it true, or is it just the story I have gotten attached to? Can I tell my story in a different way? If I could let go of my story completely, who would I be?


Try This:
1. Simply writing about this can be a powerful and transformational process. Try writing down a summary of the story you've been holding onto. What kind of character have you been playing in your life story up until now? Write it just the way you've been telling it, and then look at it objectively. This alone will raise your consciousness...

Then write down a new version that is more aligned with the person you consciously choose to be. Your ideal self. Make up new rules for your life, new beliefs about yourself, and the kind of life you really most desire.


2. Once you identify the parts of your old story that you would prefer to change, you can use EFT Tapping to dissolve your attachment to it.  Negative emotions are like the glue that holds your painful memories together. With tapping you can neutralize the negative emotions about specific past events, and re-frame the story, or ultimately, even let it go completely.

-------If you want to change your world, it begins right here. Simple steps. Infinite possibilities.


Helping my clients shift their mindset is the most gratifying part of my job.

An intuitive and non-judgemental guide and coach can  provide a mirror for you to see yourself more clearly, and to help you dis-identify from the limiting story that is keeping you stuck.

Through EFT Tapping, meditation, visualization and accountability to your goals and intentions, there are unlimited possibilities for shifting your consciousness and raising your vibration.

The more you shift your self-defeating thoughts and negative emotions, the more you connect the head and the heart, and the more life flows through you and to you.

Feel free to call me to schedule a session and make the shift :)

707-326-5566