Are You Addicted to Danger (or Drama)?

Let’s get honest for a minute.

Are you — on some level — attracted to narcissists, manipulators, or emotionally unavailable men?
Do you find yourself drawn to intensity, drama, or relationships that keep you on edge?
Do you get attached to guys who avoid you, don't commit, or reward you with intermittent love and attention?

It’s not a fun thing to admit. But it’s more common than you think.


A lot of people stuck in painful relationship cycles already know — deep down — that they’re choosing partners that don’t feel safe or healthy...
The heart wants love, peace, and connection…
But the body? The nervous system? The subconscious? They’re often addicted to something else entirely: the familiar.


This isn’t because there’s something wrong with you.
It’s because you were emotionally wired — early on — to link chaos with closeness. To confuse emotional intensity with intimacy. To think love is something you have to chase, earn, or suffer for.


If you grew up with:
• Emotionally unavailable or inconsistent caregivers
• Physical, emotional, or sexual abuse
• Chronic conflict, tension, or disharmony at home
• Or even subtle, persistent neglect or lack of attunement


…then your system was wired to expect and accept unpredictability as normal... and to even feel a strange sense of comfort in that energy. 


Your body doesn’t crave what’s healthy — it craves what’s familiar.
And that’s why so many people end up stuck in relationships that look and feel like old emotional wounds dressed up in new clothes.


You’re not broken.
You’re operating on a program that you didn’t choose — but that you can change.


Until those old traumas and imprints are released — not just intellectually understood, but truly cleared from the body and nervous system — your inner compass will keep pointing you toward danger. Toward drama. Toward the people who feel like “home” but end up hurting you.


But here’s the good news:


When you do the deep work — when those outdated patterns are finally released — everything shifts.
You unplug from the false belief that mistreatment and love are inseparable.
You restore your natural state of clarity, calmness and contentment within yourself.


And from that place, everything becomes easier:
• Saying no without having a huge guilt reaction
• Setting boundaries without second guessing or over-thinking
• Trusting your gut and honoring your needs
• Feeling whole and grounded without needing someone to complete you


This is what emotional freedom looks like.
This is what your nervous system actually wants.
And you deserve to experience it.


Want to explore this more? This is what I'm here for.
Let me know if this speaks to you — or forward it to someone who needs to hear it.


You’re not alone. And it’s not too late to change the pattern.

Your friend and coach,
Ben Schwarcz
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