Mastering the Art of Imperfectionsim

Why is it so important to examine your own perfectionist tendencies? Admit it, there is a part of you that still believes perfection is a goal worth striving for. It's ok - you're in good company.

But let me tell you why this issue needs attention.

Trying your Best is a great thing. Trying to be perfect is something else completely.

Trying to be perfect is the best way to make yourself a failure in your own mind... because perfection is not possible. In fact, whenever you tell yourself that you are lacking something, some quality, some attribute that you desire in yourself, you shrink a little bit. Noticing what you want, yet do not have, makes you feel more inadequate, incomplete, and separate from others and from the Universe.

On the contrary, when you begin to settle into yourself as you are in this moment, and you stop trying to fill yourself with more information, more skills, more of whatever you think you are lacking... you begin to feel larger, more peaceful, more powerful and more connected.

You are creating yourself in every moment. With every thought you either draw yourself closer or farther away from the deep truth of your Being - your "Higher Self" if you want to call it that. When you say that you are not good enough, or that you aren't "there" yet, you set up a reality in which you are destined to be discontented.

Remember that perfectionism is a learned behavior. It also runs in families, but not because you are genetically doomed to be a perfectionist. It's more that the consciousness that flows through a family lineage imprints on us and compels us to flow in the same direction. It is still learned. And it can be un-learned.

Would you rather be right or happy?

When you stop striving for some imaginary perfection, you begin to enjoy life along the way. There is no end. You will keep on learning forever - so you may as well enjoy each step.

The real joke on us is that behind our masks we are all Perfect Beings, fooling ourselves into believing that we are imperfect and alone in the universe. Believing that we have to prove something or get somewhere. All the while your True Self observes it all and lets you play out your dramas and delusions of what you mistake for reality.

Undoing Perfectionsim

• To get there, the first step is to STOP. (Literally, just stop moving!)
• The second step is to BREATHE. (And if breathing deeply doesn't relax your or it feels impossible - then you have to lean how to breathe properly).
• The Third step is to practice holding the thought, "I AM" (this alone, when done with deep focus and sincerity can radically transform your state of mind and your entire life).

If you go right to step three, while still running around in a state of stress and anxiety, there will probably not be much clarity or peace to be gained from this. So start with step one!

Practice these first 3 steps continually throughout your day. When you wake up. When you eat. When you go to the bathroom. While you're at work. When you're in the middle of a conflict. There is not time when it will not serve your highest good. It can transform your world in ways you can't even imagine.Undoing perfectionism and the constant stress that it creates in your mind and body is a project worth taking. It's not a race, but an ongoing expansion. Examining and learning to release old memories and emotional traumas are the deepest and most complete way to deconstruct your dysfunctional belief systems. The beliefs that cause you to suffer and make you into your own worst enemy. EFT Tapping is one excellent method of undoing these core beliefs by working through the early memories that created them. On a physical/neurological level where our deeply ingrained ideas and programs stay with us subconsciously.

EFT goes beyond talking and re-telling your stories. EFT is meant to release the past. Like an adventure book you read long ago that can now be given away, no longer needing to be read again.

For those that are newer to EFT or don't yet fully understand how it is used, just remember that the more specific you get with it - as you work through memories - the more powerful it is. And for painful memories  this is often best done with the guidance of a well trained coach or therapist.


If you haven't listened to the perfectionism description - it's only about 6 minutes long, and will help you identify the ways that you might be a perfectionist. Recognizing it in yourself is the first step to freeing yourself.

What is Perfectionsim? (Audio)


Perfectionism is habit of being, that can feel like your whole identity, but it is a dragon worth conquering.  It is a chronic state of "not good enough." Freeing yourself from this pattern may be the healthiest and most life-changing thing you will ever do. The way to undo perfectionism is an inner journey. It's about finding your inner Self and breaking the addiction to outer rewards and validation.


 
Remember the 5 Keys to Transforming Consciousness:

1. Make space. Be still. 

2. Breathe mindfully.

3. GIve up all efforts to be perfect.

4. Decide Now that you have the power and the choice to let go of anything at any time. It takes an instant to let go. Letting go is a constant practice. Do it repeatedly. YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM. You have the power to free yourself from anything that holds you back.

5. Recognize that your beliefs are the architect of your reality. If you want to change your reality, you have to be willing to question and release the old beliefs that limit you and keep you stuck.