I talk to hundreds of people who struggle with every type of emotion, trauma, fear, mental block.... you name it. In spite of the apparent differences between one person's struggles and another's, the point of change always comes with the same realizations.
The most important realization is this:
“I am the source of all that I see. And nothing is outside of my consciousness.”
This may sound like a grandiose idea. (It doesn't mean you're the ultimate creator of the Universe. Just the source of all that you see). So please just put aside your cynicism for a moment and consider this perspective. Having an open mind is a pre-requisite for any true growth or expansion of consciousness. Just an open mind.
My clients have light-bulb moments when they begin to take this idea in and start to “feel” the truth of it, rather than just holding it as an interesting intellectual concept.
If the world around you was only a dream, would you be afraid? If you knew it was all a dream, would you see any situations or people as a real threat to your well-being?
The key factor in being liberated or being disempowered is your relationship to fear.
Fear is only harmful to you when you see it as real.
We go to scary movies because we like getting scared – but it's because we know it isn't real.
We take risks because we like the thrill of overcoming our fear.
Yes, I hear some of you saying, fear is necessary to keep me alive!
I'm not talking about normal instinctive fear. Like swerving to avoid an accident. Although, you've probably experienced that kind of instinct and felt it like a slow motion scene, and felt no fear at all...
I'm talking about made up fear. Fear that is magnified by our imagination.
When life gets too scary, and we lose our power, it is because we see the threat as very real, and we see our power as very small. When you see the world as an impenetrable monster, you forget your most vital and precious gifts. You forget that it's a dream. You forget that it's a reflection of your mind. You take it very seriously and your vibration gets lower. The lower that vibration goes, the more you feel stuck in the matrix. Less energy, lower mood, more fear and anxiety, less creativity, less power, more despair and worry. It all gets very serious.
The world is not your enemy. It is your canvas. Your playground. Your hologram. Your dream.
You don't have to be perfect or saintly or enlightened to realize this. You don't have to eliminate every negative thought. You don't have to be nice all the time. You don't have to be vegan or know all the answers to life's mysteries. You don't have to be completely fearless or fulfilled or successful.
You just have to be committed to embracing this one idea. This one realization. And then you work on your thoughts.
Does this mean you don't have to take action? No!
Empowered thoughts naturally lead to empowered action. It's hard to take empowered action when you are scared to death!
When we think habitually and unconsciously all the time. When the mind is very unsettled and thoughts are constantly jumping from one thing to another, it is harder to remember that the world you see is an extension of this mind. Practicing concentration. Breathing. Doing things that help us feel grounded, calm and focused, makes it much easier to hold this idea and make it a conscious reality.
Just the act of conscious breathing can bring us to this place. Conscious breathing is the essence of Mindfulness.
When we are fully focused on our breathing we are much less mired in the mind.
EFT Tapping is another incredible tool for extinguishing negative, habitual, fear based thoughts, and quieting the restless mind.
If you want to change your world, it begins right here. Simple steps. Infinite possibilities.
We've read many self-help books that push the gratitude idea. Make a gratitude list. Keep a gratitude Journal. Focus on what you are grateful for in order to feel more positive and attract more good things into your life. The "attitude of gratitude."
But most people secretly find it very difficult to truly, genuinely feel gratitude when life is really hard (those times that you actually need positive energy the most).
We know that gratitude is healing, and that it produces a natural state of happiness when we can focus on what we're grateful for.... this is demonstrated by a number of brain studies.
But what about when nothing seems to be going your way? What can you do when you're unhappy, struggling, bitter, sad, frustrated? It can be much harder to feel genuine gratitude when life sucks!
If you can still feel genuine gratitude for the good things, then definitely focus on that. But if you're finding it hard to do, then I'm going to suggest a different way of using the power of gratitude. One that can produce much more powerful shifts in your energy and mood, faster and easier. But it requires a radically different view of reality...
The thing to be grateful for is this:
“My entire life around me is only reflecting my own consciousness, my thoughts, emotions and beliefs. What I perceive right now is only one limited version of reality, and it can all change the instant that I do. What appears out there as fixed and solid, is actually fluid and changeable. There are infinite other versions of this reality. I don't have to change the world. I can just focus on changing how I feel in this instant, and my version of the world will shift with me. The world I experience is a perfect reflection of my mind and what I hold to be true in any given moment. I can change it whenever I want. I am truly grateful to know that the power to change my world is within my own consciousness, here and now. And that even the negative things, the painful things, the apparent obstacles, are opportunities to overcome my fears, my judgments and my helplessness. I am not a victim of the world I see.
What you must remember is this:
Quantum physics demonstrates that we actually live in a multiverse (not "universe") and that in every moment, every action that you take creates a shift that births a completely new universe, like branches on a tree, endlessly growing in new directions.
Start to do the things that make you happy. Right now. Don't just think about it. Do something. Action is the easiest way to move energy.
What feels good? What do you enjoy? What have you been denying yourself?
What people have you been putting off seeing? Who boosts your positive feelings about yourself? Visit them.
What makes you smile? Do that.
Change the action. Change the scene. Do something unexpected. Out of your routine.
Changes don't have to be extreme. Just do something different. It will change how you feel. Get excited about the idea that you can change the waking dream by changing your own thinking.
Do not indulge your negative thoughts. Recognize when you are thinking like a victim. And make a conscious choice to tell yourself a different story.
Remember that your greatest power is within. It is rooted in the story you tell yourself about yourself and your life. All change begins and ends there.
You can also use EFT Tapping to help you in this same way – by calling out and clearing the negative feelings and the negative story, and re-framing, or telling yourself a different story (tapping in the positive), essentially reprogramming your subconscious mind with a new story line...
EFT can be especially useful when you feel like your negative thoughts and emotions have hijacked your mind and you can't turn it around.
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What part of this situation feels completely beyond my control?
What's showing up in my life right now that feels bigger than me, and feels like a threat? What if I could fully realize that I am the source of all that I see around me? All of it.
1. Identify what exactly is showing up that feels scary, hopeless, threatening or immovable. Close your eyes, and focus on that in your mind. Feel whatever feelings it evokes in you.
2. Then go through the EFT Tapping routine, describing the negative feelings about the thing or person you are focusing on. Describe it specifically, as related to this particular problem in your life. Keep tapping for several rounds, letting yourself feel the feelings until they subside or change. Don't think of it as a problem outside of you to defeat, but observe how it shows up in your mind. Keep tapping more rounds as you name the feelings about it, until they decrease and fade.
If you do this thoroughly, it is likely that either your "problem" out there will go away or resolve itself. Or your negative thoughts and feelings about it will change, and you will no longer consider it a problem for you.
If you don't know, or don't remember the basic EFT Tapping routine, please visit my website or download my book.
"If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration."
A thought repeated long enough becomes a belief.
Thoughts determine your feelings. But it is your beliefs that construct your reality.
Your beliefs are not random. They are part of your personal mythology...
Each of us has a story, a narrative that we tell ourselves about our history, our upbringing, our successes and failures, our traumas and our blessings. The character we play in our life story is only as powerful as the beliefs we hold about this character. The story we tell is colored by emotion, and by the meaning we give it. It is not just a neutral timeline of events. It could be written as a tragedy. Or a tale of heroism and victory. It could be told as a story of existential meaninglessness... or a story of spiritual awakening....
Whatever our story is, we tend to stick to it. We tell it to ourselves and to others, and our subconscious mind knows it intimately. It becomes the blue print for our life. We broadcast it even without our awareness.
What you see, and what you feel, how you think, and who you meet, all conforms to fit the story line that you have constructed.
Your expectations, both conscious and unconscious, all fit with what would be expected for the character that you are playing in your story.
When you change your story, you change your life.
The story of your life is still unfolding, but as long as you hold onto the story of your past, you will inadvertently continue it into your future. The story that you've bought into is actually not required for your continued growth or happiness... it is simply a role that you have chosen to play, and you've become so engrossed in playing this part that you forgot your real self.
What if you didn't have this story any more?
What is the life story that I am telling myself? Am I the hero or the victim of my story? Is it true, or is it just the story I have gotten attached to? Can I tell my story in a different way? If I could let go of my story completely, who would I be?
1. Simply writing about this can be a powerful and transformational process. Try writing down a summary of the story you've been holding onto. Write it just the way you've been telling it, and then look at it objectively. This alone will raise your consciousness...
Then write down a new version that is more aligned with the person you consciously choose to be. Your ideal self.
2. Once you identify the parts of your old story that you would prefer to change, you can use EFT Tapping to dissolve your attachment to it. Negative emotions are like the glue that holds your painful memories together. With tapping you can neutralize the negative emotions about it specific events and re-frame the story, or ultimately, even let it go completely.
If you don't know, or don't remember the basic EFT Tapping routine, please visit my website or download my book (link is below).
An intuitive and non-judgemental guide and coach can provide a mirror for you to see yourself more clearly, and to help you dis-identify from the limiting story that is keeping you stuck.
Through EFT Tapping, meditation, visualization and accountability to your goals and intentions, there are unlimited possibilities for shifting your consciousness and raising your vibration.
The more your shift your thoughts and emotions, the easier it become to create the outer life you desire.
Feel free to call me to schedule a session and make the shift :)
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All life is vibration. All energy. Your thoughts. Your emotions. Your body, and the Earth. This is a fact.
To change your circumstances, your environment, your relationships, and the path of your life, you have to shift your own consciousness.
The good news is that these inner shifts do not require time, nor do they depend on anything outside you. Shifts happen continually, and the potential for positive changes exist in every moment.
If you can get excited about this idea, you are already 90% of the way there!
So what about the other 10 percent?
Intention. Focus. Self-acceptance. Belief. That's the part that might need a little work. But it's good work and it's worth it. It's the work I live for -- for my own growth, and to help others do the same.
When the mind is cluttered with too many thoughts and past traumas and old emotional experiences are still taking up room in your head, the focus is lost, the mind is scattered, the energy is not as strong and life can feel stuck and painful and frustrating.
Never forget that the power to change is inside YOU. Not outside you, in the "world," or in someone else.
You can do things to change your consciousness.
Meditation. Breathing consciously. Talking (kindly) to yourself. And EFT Tapping are just a few of the best ways I have found.
Here are some more things you can start right now, to elevate your feelings, raise your vibration and shift your life quickly....
More Ways to Practice Getting Into the Zone:
Most of all, be kind to yourself. Life is hard enough without you being your own worst enemy.
Nobody was meant to struggle through life alone. We all get stuc sometimes. If you want some help remembering your own power, or you want to accelerate your your progress. It's never a bad time to invest in your own mental, emotional and spiritual well being!
Feel free to call me to schedule a session and make the shift :)
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I want to talk about Energy and Consciousness...
All physical matter is connected. And all matter is an expression of energy. Energy is the substratum of the world that we appear to live in.
Not only are the atoms that make up your physical body, in fact energy... but your thoughts and emotions are forms of energy. They are measurable and real.
The method that I use most in my work with people is EFT - also called Tapping. It is an energy based, mind/body technique that was developed over 20 years ago and has gained more and more acceptance by the mainstream psychology and medical professions.
What we think, has a direct effect on what we feel, as well as our physical vitality and health.
What we think Consciously - is only maybe 10% of what we are actually thinking. The other 90% is Unconscious - and it is that 90% that affects us the most!
Our unconscious programs can help us and can also hurt us, or limit us, or cause us to feel stuck in patterns of behavior or relationships or circumstances that seem beyond our control.
When our unconscious mind is in alignment with our conscious mind, things flow, you feel empowered, inspired, energized, and effective. But when there is a mismatch, such as when your conscious desire is blocked by your unconscious fear - then you feel stuck or blocked. EFT can be used to change those unconscious fears and emotional blocks.
EFT is a form of energy healing that can alter your relationship to the past.
It can permanently change your emotional reaction and your feelings about past events you've experienced in your life.
Imagine for a moment that time was not linear but rather all times exist simultaneously. Imagine past present and future stretched out across the universe like a tunnel. Imagine rising above and away from that tunnel you have a vantage point of the whole thing all at once you can see it all stretched out before you all existing there in front of you like a loaf of bread... you can look at any slice of bread from any particular slice of time and yet it exists right now just as much as any other slice of bread.
Now consider for a moment that whatever you feel think and do here right now in this present time is very much influenced by things that you've experienced in the past -- particularly in the first 20 years of life. From your childhood, when you were most impressionable.
Now consider the fact anything that's happened, particularly any adverse event that has happened in your past continues to to exert a negative effect on your outlook, your emotions, even your health... your sense of possibilities about yourself and about the world, your relationship patterns your, stress, triggers, addictions, attachments, your likes and dislikes your fears.....
Now if you could take yourself specifically back to a memory, what you are in fact doing is like time traveling... taking a past moment and entering into that moment in some way connecting back into that moment becoming present again in that moment..... and if you can use EFT tapping to elliminate or diffuse all the emotional energy and reactions to that past event as well as fade away the detail and the intensity of the memory itself -- then in a fact you have changed the past.... Because the past as it affects you now is simply the past as you remember it.
If you change your memory and all of your feelings about that memory, it is as if it never happened. And this is exactly what many of my clients say to me after we have successfully worked through a past trauma. They sometimes find it unbelievable and a little confusing to find that a troubling past memory that has burdened them or overwhelmed them or felt extremely vulnerable or difficult to even talk about, unpleasant to think about for years, suddenly becomes inconsequential...neutral and faded and barely there at all. I like to think of this as literally changing your past. You know when you watch a time travel movie and they go into the past and fix something or change something and then they come back to the present and they see that something is different and it's all perfect and seamless?
Well in a fact that's what happens when you do EFT on a past trauma trauma and achieve total resolution of the trauma. Not only do you change your past but you change the present and that's really what matters most."
EFT Tapping - Dissolving Your Mental and Emotional Blocks to Happiness, Success, and Satisfying Relationships.
The absolute greatest, most powerful factor in your present reality, is not your circumstances, your job, your family or your society, but your own mind.
Even if you had all the best resources at your disposal, if your mind is focused on what you don't want, or if you unconsciously are conflicted, fearful, or confused about what you do want - you simply will not be happy.
When your subconscious and conscious mind are aligned and fear and confusion no longer stand in your way, you will realize the truth, that you are a creative being, with far more potential than you ever realized.What does true happiness mean to you? Do you really know what would make you happy? Is happiness an elusive dream that you've always been chasing, trying to satisfy yourself by achieving more, getting more things, more relationships, more money? hint: "Happiness" as most people know it is only a pale shadow of the real Joy or "Bliss" of knowing your authentic inner Self. That inner bliss is your birthright - your true nature - and it can never be found "out there." Having material comforts is a wonderful thing. Having great health, and wonderful relationships is even better.
Finding your passion and purpose in life will bring your life to a new level. When we stop looking outside ourselves for the thing that we think will make us happy, we begin to develop an inner contentment and peace that can never be taken from you, regardless of your circumstances.Whatever your goals, I would love to help you navigate the the often murky path of self discovery, and help you get the clarity and focus that will help you manifest your vision for the life you really want.
Do you feel like you're paddling upstream? Wouldn't it be nice to go with the flow of life and get what you really want without stress, fear and guilt blocking your way?Energy Coaching is about deep transformation of the way you think, feel, and relate to the world and to yourself. My intention is to help you to find an ease, and harmony in life that feels genuine, natural and authentic. Our work is designed to help you discover what you truly want to do, (not what you think you "should" do), and to help you to achieve it without the inner conflict and self-doubt.If you are already on the path that feels right, then Energy Coaching can help you to do what you are already doing, only better. Combining EFT Tapping with Meditation techniques, mindfulness, holistic health principles, and the power of focused intention, Energy Coaching can liberate you from your own self-sabotage, and put you back on track.Everyone has the keys to unlock the hidden treasures within if they know where to look.
Call me to discuss how Energy Coaching can empower you to take your life to the next level.
Hope and belief are two of the most important elements for success. For manifesting and living your dreams. Without hope or belief in yourself, your dreams are only fantasies. Sad wishes.
How do we get that genuine hope and belief in ourselves – in our possibilities – when we're feeling down, sad, small and afraid?
Consider who you're hanging out with. What kind of friendships do you have? What do your friends and family tell you? Are you hanging around with people who put you down, belittle you, don't take you seriously, are jealous and insecure about your success or your aspirations? Are you spending time with someone who tells you that you can't do it? That you should be more “practical” or more “realistic” and not have pipe dreams? Stop spending time with that person! Stop accepting those messages! They are small-minded and fearful. Unless you want to be like them – you must separate from them and spend time with and listen to those that actually, genuinely believe in you and your potential. You need positive people and positive influence if you want to change yourself and transform your life. It's as simple as that. Until your self-concept changes, nothing else changes.
Sometimes people fall into the habit of only hanging out with others who are worse off than themselves. That way they can feel like they have some value, some self-esteem, or some positive influence. They might get some gratification, or some appreciation from people and that feels good. And of course, giving to others – selfless service is divine and is very important, both for yourself and for the world....
But if this is your community, and you, with all your own inner demons, fears, insecurities and self-doubts are the most positive person in that community – then how are you going to evolve and rise above your self-limiting beliefs? Every teacher needs a teacher. Every healer needs a healer. Every visionary needs a mentor. There are no exceptions.
When someone you respect truly believes in you more than you believe in yourself - then you know you've found someone you can learn from. When you begin to absorb their positive image of you and you begin to do that for yourself, you will grow and your life will change for the better. You are only limited by your own self-concept.
Cultivate a community of like-minded people, others that you can learn from, teachers that can guide you on a path of expansion and personal growth. Belief is powerful. Hope is powerful. Anything is possible if you TRULY believe in yourself!
In 24 years of counseling and coaching people with a myriad of apparent obstacles and life issues, the common denominator is always the same: Unresolved emotional trauma.
Now, before you dismiss this as irrelevant to you, let me define what I mean by "trauma":
Any past emotional event (since birth), that you were not able to control, that is uncomfortable to talk about, or that still evokes some negative emotion, or that stands out more vividly in your memory than other memories of that same age.
If you are still angry with someone who hurt you in the past...or if you still cringe uncomfortably remembering an embarrassing moment... or if you get teary when you talk about someone you've lost... .or if you get anxious and heavy feelings in the chest just by focusing on a past event...these are all signs of old emotions that you have not released.
In short, there is no one who does not have past traumas, as life itself is traumatic. Our loved one's die. We face divorce. Our children scare the hell out of us when they get hurt. We might have grown up in a family where we experienced some form of abuse or neglect, or we may have witnessed violence done to someone else. We are embarrassed by insensitive teachers. We lose jobs, and friends. We have health crises. We have regrets. We have trouble forgiving ourselves. We hold onto resentments.
We all have emotional memories that we can't let go of, yet these things do nothing to enhance our lives. They weigh us down and trouble the mind and cause stress and fear. When we push them down far enough, our past traumas can manifest as depression or anxiety or addiction or anger. And many of us don't even realize it.
It is an unfortunate fact of human nature that we prefer to suffer and hold onto the past because it's familiar and even comforting... but the idea letting it go... of a future without that familiar suffering is terrifying and unknown.What is certain in life is change. Everything in life is impermanent. But we are terrified of change because when we change, we have to face the unknown. The more we cling to what's familiar, the more we suffer when life takes an unexpected turn. Sometimes life forces us to let go. Life is full of those experiences, and they stay with us, either consciously or unconsciously influencing our future decisions and our feelings.
Our present reality, and the reality we project into our future is only as free and unfettered, as we are free of our past. And the past has a funny way of sticking to us, (whether we are aware of it or not).
The problem with mainstream psychology as embraced by modern culture, is that it is largely ineffective in helping us to truly let go of what haunts us. What's more, most of us have unconsciously embraced some inaccurate and damaging assumptions about how to deal with the past.
Here are some of the most common ones:
1. "The past is what made me who I am - I don't want to let go of my past hurts, because I'm proud of them - those are my victories. "
2. "If I let go of my grief about this loved one, I am letting go of them... I have to keep this pain because it shows how much I love them. (If I let go of this pain it means I will forget them, or dishonor them)."
3. "It's not possible to ever forget that... it's too big, too bad, and too deeply ingrained in my mind. I will always have strong negative feelings about what happened."
The truth is this:
It is possible to permanently release even the most painful emotions about the past, and to remove the intensity from virtually any trauma memory, no matter how vivid or strong the emotion is.
The best tool I have found for making this possible, is EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), a meridian-based healing technique that now has over 60 peer reviewed studies demonstrating it's efficacy. Commonly know as "Tapping," this simple but powerful self-healing method is both practical as a sort of emotional first aid, as well as a transformational tool that can be used with the guidance of a trained coach, therapist or practitioner to fully release what holds you back from your true potential, and let your authenticity shine.
As I drove to work this morning, I gave myself a little pep talk.
I do that sometimes as I prepare for the client I'll be sitting with for the next hour. They're coming for answers. For peace. For connection. For understanding. For compassion. For love. They come for solutions, for a way out of emotional pain, for help finding The Thing that will fix it all.
And as I have done many times before, I remembered (again) the most important thing - in fact the only thing that I have to offer anyone. And that is to be Present, Awake, and Completely Alive in this very moment. It is the only place where true connection exists - with myself - with the world - and with my client. And it is all that matters.
We spend our lives looking for happiness in every place except the one place where it can actually be found. Here, in this moment, right now.No big revelation you may say. Countless books already written about this simple fact. Be Here Now, The Power of Now, Wherever You Go, There You Are.... But really, how many people actually fully accept this as truth?
And how many actually embrace this Truth and live it?
I could throw away every psychology and self-help book I've ever read, and take just this one profound lesson, and this alone would be enough to form the basis for everything I have to offer my clients. Whether they're depressed, or anxious, or stressed out, or looking for their soul mate, or trying to find satisfaction in their job, or improve their golf game, or just have more fun in life. The answer is really the same. If you can't have it NOW, you never will! If you can't accept the fact that there is absolutely nothing outside of you that will give you the happiness or peace of mind that you are searching for, then you will keep on searching for the rest of your life... looking for the thing that will finally make you happy. And you will never find it -- until you finally stop and surrender.
When you give up, you wake up.
If it's hard to do on your own, then look for the people you know that are in that zone. And spend as much time around them as possible. You'll recognize them by the little gleam in their eyes. The genuine kindness they exude. The feeling of peace and acceptance you feel from them. You will feel a loss of the sense of time pressure when you connect with them, because they are not functioning in "time" but are content and present with you in the moment. Hang out with them. It's contagious.
And remember that even those people that seem like they're "there" and you are not - like they figured it all out, and you're left behind - the truth is, they keep on forgetting too, just like you do. Maybe they're just one step ahead of you. You can help each other to remember.
We all need a little help. Not to get something outside of us, but just to be reminded that we already have it. We ARE it.
Ben Schwarcz is a Coach, advanced EFT Tapping Practitioner, teacher and Psychotherapist in Santa Rosa, CA, specializing in trauma release and Peak Performance Coaching. Ben can be reached at 707-326-5566 or through his websites: www.tapping-coach.com and www.alternativedepressiontherapy.com
The MOST important Question - Part 2
Last year I wrote a newsletter about "The Most Important Question." A lot of people expressed strong feelings about that, some of them feeling moved to make a change, others feeling some pressure to figure things out, but in any case, it stirred up some feelings.
So I felt it would be good to write more on this very important subject.
Most people find that once they ask themselves this question, they suddenly have more questions, or they feel huge resistance - like a big mental block - preventing them from answering it.
This question, that holds so much power to change your life, yet can seem so difficult to answer and can create so much inner confusion is this:
"WHAT DO I REALLY WANT?"
It's an easy question. But we find a million reasons why we can't, or wont answer it honestly or completely....
What does your mind do when you ask yourself, "What do I really want?"
If you're like Most people, you are probably afraid to answer this question. Your fear might show up as confusion, indecision, or anxiety. There may be a belief that answering this question will require you to give up something, or make a big sacrifice, or disappoint someone. It can be very elusive. Your mind might go blank when you try to answer this question. But once you know what you REALLY want, and when you are crystal clear about it, all hesitation, doubt, guilt, and confusion disappears and is replaced by a feeling of motivation and energy.
So ask yourself,
"What do I truly want?"
And just observe what comes up. What is likely to reveal itself is your fear. You see, we are not used to asking ourselves what we want and then being uncompromisingly committed to an answer.
When we ask ourselves what we want, we tend to think of all the things we DON'T want.
Or we have a feeling of what we want, but feel like we don't deserve to have that.
Or we think it's unrealistic or grandiose to ask for what we really want.
Or we uncover a core belief that we will always be disappointed and it's too painful to think big.
Or we think of the people who would not understand or might even try to talk us out of what we want.
Or we might feel it's actually dangerous to reach for what you want. Maybe the cost is too great.
Or your fears might come up so fast that your mind wont even formulate a thought or vision of what you want - it will just shut down before it's out of the gate.
What do all of these internal conflicts have in common?
They are all based on fear.
And they are all beliefs. Your beliefs.
One of the most important lessons that I have been learning and continue to learn, and to teach is this:
Your entire life experience is based upon your beliefs.
The people in your life, and the ways that they appear...
The circumstances you find yourself in....
The "good luck" and the "bad luck" that shows up in your life....
The quality of your relationships...
The feelings you have about your life and the meaning you give to it...
It is all based on your beliefs. Your concept of yourself. Your concept of your world.
So if you can accept that... if your intuition is saying "yes, I know that is true" - then the next
question is "now what am I supposed to do about it?"
You've put a lot of time and effort into working on your issues, soul searching, self-examining and sorting out your feelings. But those core beliefs are deep. They're stubborn. That's why they've been there most of your life and they endure.
Really changing your core beliefs is an important process that requires time, attention and commitment.
For now, I am simply going to name two very important ways to keep moving towards positive transformation.
1. Always be releasing.
2. Do and think about the things that feel good to you - as much as possible.
Releasing what? Releasing negative emotions, negative thoughts, and negative expectations. You can do this with EFT Tapping, with Meditation, with the Sedona Method or simply by choosing to let go of any negative feeling or thought whenever they appear.
Do what feels good?
I don't mean just doing what doesn't feel bad...
(Like staying in bed because it feels better than going to work)
I mean - what feels really good to you? What makes you feel healthy? What opens your heart? What kind of thoughts feel good? (This also obviously doesn't mean do unhealthy, reckless or addictive things that give you a quick high and then leave you feeling miserable afterwards).
If you are sitting around worrying, agitating, arguing with yourself or others in your mind - you know this is only creating more of that low energy reality.
If you allow yourself to dream, to be inspired, to go to the places you want to go and spend time with the people you want to spend time with - then that's good - and it will lead to more goodness. Hope, beauty, kindness, creativity, nature... these things raise your vibration. No matter what your situation, no matter how down and out you might seem to be, there is always another choice you can make to let yourself feel a little bit better.
And finally, one last tip that can be one of the most powerful tools for transformation:
Write it down.
Write down what you want, as if you have it already.
Write down your goals - phrased as if they have already come to pass.
Keep it simple, and just write it down. It should feel good to write down what you want in this way.
It should make you smile a little bit. It will help your imagination to wake up, and will allow you to actually start to feel the feeling of having what you want.
You can start today. Just write it down. Even little things that you want - like situations that you are worried about... write down the positive outcome that you want and the feelings you want to feel. A daily practice of this is extremely powerful. Don't show your writing to anyone, except perhaps your most trusted and supportive friend.
And if you are ready to get help to go deeper and truly change your core beliefs...
Transformational Coaching is a way to embark on the quest to answer this most important question, release the unconscious fears that block your clarity, and step onto the path of personal freedom, purpose and power.
If you've never tried EFT with me - or if you're ready for a few more rounds - there's no time like the Present.
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Author, Ben Schwarcz
Transformational Coach, Psychotherapist, EFT Tapping Practitioner, Teacher and Author.