Why is it so important to examine your own perfectionist tendencies? Admit it, there is a part of you that still believes perfection is a goal worth striving for. It's ok - you're in good company.
But let me tell you why this issue needs attention.
Trying your Best is a great thing. Trying to be perfect is something else completely.
Trying to be perfect is the best way to make yourself a failure in your own mind... because perfection is not possible. In fact, whenever you tell yourself that you are lacking something, some quality, some attribute that you desire in yourself, you shrink a little bit. Noticing what you want, yet do not have, makes you feel more inadequate, incomplete, and separate from others and from the Universe.
On the contrary, when you begin to settle into yourself as you are in this moment, and you stop trying to fill yourself with more information, more skills, more of whatever you think you are lacking... you begin to feel larger, more peaceful, more powerful and more connected.
You are creating yourself in every moment. With every thought you either draw yourself closer or farther away from the deep truth of your Being - your "Higher Self" if you want to call it that. When you say that you are not good enough, or that you aren't "there" yet, you set up a reality in which you are destined to be discontented.
Remember that perfectionism is a learned behavior. It also runs in families, but not because you are genetically doomed to be a perfectionist. It's more that the consciousness that flows through a family lineage imprints on us and compels us to flow in the same direction. It is still learned. And it can be un-learned.
Would you rather be right or happy?
When you stop striving for some imaginary perfection, you begin to enjoy life along the way. There is no end. You will keep on learning forever - so you may as well enjoy each step.
The real joke on us is that behind our masks we are all Perfect Beings, fooling ourselves into believing that we are imperfect and alone in the universe. Believing that we have to prove something or get somewhere. All the while your True Self observes it all and lets you play out your dramas and delusions of what you mistake for reality.
Practice these first 3 steps continually throughout your day. When you wake up. When you eat. When you go to the bathroom. While you're at work. When you're in the middle of a conflict. There is not time when it will not serve your highest good. It can transform your world in ways you can't even imagine.Undoing perfectionism and the constant stress that it creates in your mind and body is a project worth taking. It's not a race, but an ongoing expansion. Examining and learning to release old memories and emotional traumas are the deepest and most complete way to deconstruct your dysfunctional belief systems. The beliefs that cause you to suffer and make you into your own worst enemy. EFT Tapping is one excellent method of undoing these core beliefs by working through the early memories that created them. On a physical/neurological level where our deeply ingrained ideas and programs stay with us subconsciously.
EFT goes beyond talking and re-telling your stories. EFT is meant to release the past. Like an adventure book you read long ago that can now be given away, no longer needing to be read again.
For those that are newer to EFT or don't yet fully understand how it is used, just remember that the more specific you get with it - as you work through memories - the more powerful it is. And for painful memories this is often best done with the guidance of a well trained coach or therapist.
If you haven't listened to the perfectionism description - it's only about 6 minutes long, and will help you identify the ways that you might be a perfectionist. Recognizing it in yourself is the first step to freeing yourself.
What is Perfectionsim? (Audio)
Perfectionism is habit of being, that can feel like your whole identity, but it is a dragon worth conquering. It is a chronic state of "not good enough." Freeing yourself from this pattern may be the healthiest and most life-changing thing you will ever do. The way to undo perfectionism is an inner journey. It's about finding your inner Self and breaking the addiction to outer rewards and validation.
Remember the 5 Keys to Transforming Consciousness:
1. Make space. Be still.
2. Breathe mindfully.
3. GIve up all efforts to be perfect.
4. Decide Now that you have the power and the choice to let go of anything at any time. It takes an instant to let go. Letting go is a constant practice. Do it repeatedly. YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM. You have the power to free yourself from anything that holds you back.
5. Recognize that your beliefs are the architect of your reality. If you want to change your reality, you have to be willing to question and release the old beliefs that limit you and keep you stuck.
Perfectionism is paralyzing.
We live in a fast world, where being “productive” is the measuring stick for a good and worthwhile life.... yet we all secretly wish for more time, more freedom, and more joy.
We all want more space, more time for relationships, more energy, and more time to live and enjoy life.
The urgency and the pressure to make more and do more... to keep up with the demands of kids, chores, bills, aging parents... creates overwhelm, stress and burnout. This depletion can lead to depression and nervous disorders, anxiety, chronic pain and a host of other ailments.
All signs of a life out of balance.
What can we do about it?
Most important: Recognize what you are doing. And be aware that your life is built upon a belief, and a story that you have adopted as “reality.” You forgot that you have freedom. You forgot that you have options. You do not realize that your outer reality is a reflection of your inner truth, your inner sense of self-worth, your belief in what is possible, or allowable, or deserved.
Change your mind, to change your world.
Don't try to change the world to change your self!
Re-arranging the furniture of your house will not create a brand new house.
In a few days or weeks you will feel the same about your house again...
Just like life...
Most of us would benefit immensely if we could slow down, step off the hamster wheel, and take some time every day to focus inward. Better yet – put your bare feet on the earth. Breath. Meditate. Journal. Exercise. Do some EFT with yourself...
If you're the kind of person that can never truly relax (without T.V., alcohol or drugs or food), and never really feels “good enough” no matter how hard you try, then chances are you fit the profile of a perfectionist. Perfectionism is not the same as self-mastery or being impeccable. Perfectionism is a never ending quest to make yourself good enough, acceptable enough, or successful enough to get the respect or love or recognition you secretly yearn for. It's based on a core belief that you are not completely acceptable, lovable and good enough just as you are right now in this moment. That you have to DO something, constantly, to demonstrate your value. This produces enormous stress and anxiety and will never lead you to happiness. To learn more about perfectionism, listen to my six minute audio and see if it applies to you:
What is Perfectionsim? (Audio)
Perfectionism is habit of being, that can feel like your whole identity, but it is a dragon worth conquering. Freeing yourself from this pattern may be the healthiest and most life-changing thing you will ever do. The way to undo perfectionism is an inner journey. It's about finding your inner Self and breaking the addiction to outer rewards and validation. Freeing yourself from this perfectionist mindset will also transform your relationships. You will be less frustrated and less disappointed in the people you are close to. You will experience more pleasure, more peace and more contentment. And you will become more creative and internally motivated.
One of the best ways to start working on this is to keep a journal. Every day write down at least five positive qualities of yourself that are true in this moment. If you have a hard time coming up with five, then write down what you would like to feel about yourself, as if it was so right now.
Next, begin to write about the role models, parental models, siblings and other relationships you grew up with that may have either caused you to feel compelled to prove yourself, or hide your faults. Everything from comparing yourself and your performance to someone else, or avoiding shame or punishment or neglect by doing more and being "good." Look at the behaviors that got you the most love, attention, praise or status. You may also see other reasons that you took on the path of unrelenting pursuit of something - wealth, success, skill, notoriety, respectability - in order to escape the pain of something that you couldn't bear to live with. Perfectionist patterns can develop for many different reasons, but the result is always stress and an inability to truly relax and feel okay and at home within yourself.
EFT Tapping is the perfect method of exploring, releasing and resolving any childhood memories that are at the root of this pattern.
Clarifying Your Operating System
The Fastest Way to Get What you Want.....
Is to let go of it.
It's also the most difficult thing to do - to let go of wanting – but it's also the quickest and most effortless way. Paradoxical. Yes, and that's why this point can be so hard to grasp.
Chasing what we want, or even simply yearning for it, often pushes it further away. Desperation is like a time-bomb threatening to destroy the very thing we seek. It is the opposite of confidence, faith, trust or flow.
If you focus on something you want, you build up energy and focus and you begin to draw that thing into your energetic field. But the reason you don't already have that thing is because you're not yet fully in alignment with it. Being "out of alignment" is always due to a subconscious fear or blocking belief. You can be “out of alignment” simply because some part of you is afraid to change or feels unworthy, or does not fully believe that you can attain that. Or deep down you may feel guilty, or fear that once attained, there will be some negative consequence, it will come with a cost, or even some punishment. Or there can be fear that if you attain something great, it will then get taken away and you will suffer deep loss and disappointment.
These are all common subconscious blocks. And they are all rooted in our early life memories and traumas. When you go through something painful, your brain becomes programmed to avoid anything that may cause you to experience that pain ever again. So if finding a great relationship, or finding success in your business, or trying to relax and have more fun, or trying to start a healthier lifestyle keeps eluding you – look to your subconscious fears and core beliefs to find out why.
There is no other reason for our struggles.
We can spend many years, many tears and lots of money trying to “fix” our problems out there, manipulating our situations, trying new diets, spending hours and hours of our life on dating sites, looking and waiting....
But the only thing that really needs fixing is your own subconscious mind. And typical therapy, talking, goal-setting, and "positive thinking" will only take you so far.
Neural pathways – the Rivers of our habitual thoughts.
Imagine your thoughts are like water. Scattered thoughts are like scattered showers. But a repeated thought is like a stream. A thought repeated over time creates a river, and as more of those repetitive thoughts flow into that river, it expands and widens, gaining force and momentum. The current becomes strong, and if you step in it, you get carried away, no matter how you fight against it. Thoughts are like this.
If you want to change that river's course you are not going to be able to do it. There is only one way to change the course of a river, and that is to stop feeding it. You feed it with your thoughts. When new thoughts stop flowing, the river begins to recede, quickly shrinking in size, and eventually it runs dry and is gone.
Left to their own habitual tendencies, most people find it nearly impossible to get out of their negative thought patterns.
EFT is one of the best ways to create new neural pathways – new rivers of positive thought. EFT is more than positive affirmations. It is a rapid method of extinguishing the repetitive negative thoughts that are so automatic and so destructive to us. (And the deep work is about tapping through specific foundational memories). When negative thoughts and beliefs are neutralized this way, it no longer takes much effort at all to alter our negative thinking. The negative thoughts just stop sticking to us - or may no longer even show up at all.
Once we have positive thought patterns flowing with force – then that becomes the default setting – and this becomes natural and automatic. The new "normal."
We are wired for survival. Healing our past hurts is a vitally important way to stay well and keep ourselves in a state of flow. When the positive river flows, our energy flows, people around us feel it and are uplifted by it, and our success becomes effortless and instantaneous.
There are effective ways to begin working on this right now.
You can begin this self-healing journey and begin to release your past right now.
Self-help Exercise - Mapping Core Beliefs:
Draw 3 large circles near the top of a piece of paper.
In each one, identify one "table top" issue. Meaning, a general, repetitive, negative pattern or negative belief or emotion that shows up repeatedly in your life. For example, "People I'm close to betray me."
Then under this table, draw lines, like table legs, and on each one, write down any specific memory - particularly in your first 20 years of life - that seems related to this issue. Perhaps an event or experience where you were betrayed, or felt betrayed by someone close to you. List as many as you can remember.
Sometimes just breaking down our beliefs in this way can start to bring clarity and relief. It can be empowering to see where our patterns come from.
Then, if you are experienced with EFT Tapping or another trauma release technique, you can begin to tap through some of these. If you are new to this, I strongly recommend that you do not tap about the most intense, emotional or deeply traumatic memories without some good support or professional guidance. Better to start with mildly unpleasant memories. And if it creates any overwhelm, seek the assistance of a well trained EFT practitioner.
Remember, that your core beliefs - both positive and negative beliefs - are simply based on memories and the emotions, thoughts and self-talk that you associate with those memories. When we release enough of these significant memories, we also release the self-limiting beliefs that are rooted there. And change happens quickly and far more gracefully.
When your beliefs truly change, your whole life experience changes.
Note: This article and the suggestions written here, do not constitute medical or professional advice and do not establish a professional relationship. These are self-help suggestions and when in doubt, it is advised that you seek direct professional support. This site and the information presented does not claim to treat, cure, or diagnose any illness or health condition. If you have thoughts of self-harm or safety concerns, please seek the support of a professional health practitioner.
The Five Keys to Transforming Your Consciousness, Shifting Your Mindset and Elevating Your Mood
There are Five Key things that must be done in order to shift your mindset.
Leaving any of them out will keep you from making a full shift shift to your next level of being.... and it is very important to know that we never stop evolving, no matter how much we grow.
1. Make space. Be still.
2. Breathe mindfully. Deep and slow breathing from the belly. With awareness. Practice this constantly.
3. GIve up all efforts to be perfect. Let go of your perfectionism and accept yourself as you are NOW.
4. Decide Now that you have the power and the choice to let go of anything at any time. It takes an instant to let go. Letting go is a constant practice. Do it repeatedly. YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM.
5. Your beliefs are the architect of your reality. Your core beliefs are subconsciously programmed and rooted in the past - mainly in childhood memories. Most of these programs are UNCONSCIOUS in us. Therefor, if you want to change your beliefs (and your reality), you must have a way into those memories and you must have a way to release unresolved traumatic or adverse memories in order to allow a new positive belief to naturally crystallize in it's place.
You are on a consciousness journey, waking up to who you really are, and realizing your power to consciously, and effortlessly, create your own reality. In truth we are always creating our experience of reality in every moment. The key to allowing your life to flow easily, effortlessly and naturally is a combination of excitement and belief.
When we believe that something is possible with all of our heart and we feel excited about it, an unstoppable momentum is generated, and it is inevitable for us to create that thing - we draw it into our field of consciousness. If we have only excitement, without really believing that something is possible, then it's less likely to get what we want. And if we have the belief but no desire, no excitement, no energy toward that thing, it's unlikely that we will attract it. But when we have these two things together there is great power and things can happen very quickly.
The key is that in order to truly believe, we have to reconstruct our subconscious programming, which is where our beliefs are rooted. That's where your power is. And that's where EFT Tapping comes in.
Our core beliefs are based on our formative memories. Our limitations are simply negative core beliefs that are rooted In our old trauma memories (both "Big T" and "little t" traumas). Unless we go in and complete some of those emotionally meaningful memories, those un-popped bubbles in the stream of time, we have a very difficult time ever changing our core beliefs and thus we also have a hard time liberating ourselves and rising to the level of being a conscious creator. We cannot harness the power of the mind to intentionally create or attract what we want, or enjoy the thrill of seeing the world as our reflection unless we can undo the negative, self-limiting, fear-based, victim identity that is programmed into the mind and body from our earliest years of life and throughout our development.
The world is nothing more than a mirror of your consciousness. When you change, the world changes. Hold it lightly. Don't take yourself too seriously and enjoy the show.
More Transformational Tips:
Accept every adverse experience or challenge as a way for you to confront a fear, overcome a limitation, find a new strength or surrender the ego.
We never stop getting new chances to practice, change and grow.
It's not a race. The universe is a big place. And time is an illusion.
It's all Happening NOW.
Laugh at yourself whenever you can.
Talk out loud to yourself - kindly and with love - any chance you get.
Your inner child might be pissed off at you - or scared of your criticism and self judgement. Talk to your inner kid - because this kid is real and you need one another.
Don't be afraid to want more out of life. But never forget that your only real peace is in realizing there is nothing outside you that will ultimately satisfy you. Your heart has everything you yearn for.already.
Write in a journal whenever you can.
Write down your goals. Just writing them down makes them infinitely more likely to happen.
Even though you have it all inside you - it is still often necessary, and very human, to need another human being to witness your feelings in order for you to grow and release pain. You don't have to be a a hero. Ask for help. You're worth it.
EFT Tapping to release what binds you...
There is no better place to begin than right where you are. Everything required for you to fulfill your purpose and find meaning and peace in your life, is present in your mind and body at this moment. The longing. The dreams. The fears and the hopes. And even the pain.
Pain is a state that is very difficult to ignore. Pain shows up when our deeper self is having a hard time getting our attention. Emotional pain. Physical pain. They are intimately connected.
I've seen many clients who experience physical symptoms - like migraines, or feelings of intense nausea - that prove to be 100% emotionally caused. That doesn't mean it's "all in your head." It means that emotions are in the body. And the body can react to certain emotions with the same intensity as any other substance - like an allergen, and toxin or food that can't be digested. EFT Tapping can often release emotions at this body-mind level with amazing ease.
Pain is what often drives many people to seek the help of a healer, coach, or therapist. Those who recognize the opportunity for deep and profound transformation, gain the most. When we release any deeply held emotion, pain, or even outgrown beliefs that keep our heart and mind closed, we experience tremendous relief, gratitude, peace, and inspiration. This is the edge of the known and the threshold of a potential that can bring new delights, new possibilities, adventures and wisdom that may have once seemed impossible.
Emotional and physical pain becomes sharper, scarier and more overwhelming when it is seen as a problem.
I never recommend using phrases like, "I battle depression." Unless you want to do battle with yourself, I suggest looking at your emotions and your body in a gentler way.
Any obstacle, adversary, enemy, pain, illness or circumstance that shows up in your life, can be transformed when you choose to see it as a doorway to transformation. A poison can be transmuted into nectar. And fear can transform into forgiveness, love and peace. Sometimes through surrender. Sometimes through confrontation and courage. The essential secret is to practice confronting every obstacle in your life as a perfectly designed lesson in personal empowerment and liberation. EFT Tapping can greatly facilitate that process of transmutation - especially when done with a the guidance of a trained, intuitive coach.
For now, make the decision that you will not remain trapped in a reality of your own creation and choose to begin the journey of living a conscious and empowered life.
Keep a journal. Write down the things in your life that you know you want, and the things that you want to change or let go of. List the things and the people that appear to be your most difficult obstacles or sources of pain and ask yourself how these obstacles might be approached as portals for your transformation.
Wishing you Peace and Success!
What does Trauma work have to do with Time Travel?
Time travel has been a fascination of mine for my whole life. It's also a serious subject of debate and research among theoretical physicists. Quantum physics shows us that time is different than how we normally perceive it.
A great deal of my professional life is spent helping my clients release past emotional traumas. I see people of all ages, and many have carried the heaviness, the emotions and the vivid imagery of early traumas for decades. An unresolved emotional trauma from childhood can be just as vivid, intense and real to an 80 year old, as it can be to a 30 year old. Time does NOT heal all wounds, contrary to popular belief.
When we use EFT Tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques), in the most effective clinical way (not the superficial way that it is popularly portrayed online), for specific traumatic memories, it is common to see vivid imagery disappear forever, emotional intensity give way to contentment and peace, and physical symptoms of tension, stress and pain to completely disappear as the trauma is resolved.
So my question is this: What is the difference between this and time travel?
If you went back in time, and intervened to prevent that traumatic event that happened to you at the age of 12 or 8 or 5, so that it never happened, how would you be different today? How would your life have ended up? How different would you feel? How would your relationships be different?
Fortunately, we don't have to wait for quantum physicists to invent a time travel machine to find out.
When we work on a trauma memory with EFT, it often becomes quickly apparent that the impressions of that memory are very present in both the mind and the body. And by using the EFT technique effectively with a well trained guide, the memory can become so neutralized that it feels as if it never even happened.
Does that mean you forget it? This is what most people ask. Some people are afraid of forgetting. The fact is, you do not forget. You simply take away all the vividness, all the sadness, the anger, the shame, the embarrassment, the fear, the anxiety, the tension.... often what was a clear photographic mental image, now shows up faded or even blank. So how is this any different than time travel? Changing the course of your life by changing the past?
It's no different. It's the same thing.
When you resolve enough early trauma memories, you regain yourself, your power, your confidence, your innocence, your joyfulness.
This is why I love this work!
Don't be happy later.
It is disempowering to yourself when you hold the belief that "I will be happy when..."
When I'm married....
When I'm making more money....
When the weekend comes....
When I eat desert....
When I get laid....
The truth is, no you will not. You will have a temporary satiation of your desire. And that will bring temporary satisfaction and contentment.
If it's really great you might have a moment or two of ecstasy. And then it will be done.
We create all kinds of stories about why we are not happy, or can't be happy. You might believe deep down, that you don't deserve to be happy or haven't earned the right to be happy. Or you might even believe that you don't know how to be happy - or that you were never taught how to be happy.
You might believe that if you were happy for no reason, that you would lose all desire and motivation to accomplish anything or take any action in life. This idea just another way we justify torturing ourselves and suffering more than we need to.
You can let yourself be happy in this moment, for absolutely no reason at all. Nothing outside of you, no sensory experience, no pleasure seeking can give you what you really desire. Our happiness does not require anything beyond your own existence. Even opening up to the very possibility of this will elevate your vibration.
In every moment you can stop indulging in worry, fear, guilt and anger and choose to just be at peace. It requires your permission to allow yourself this happiness for no reason. You don't have to earn it or fight for it or struggle for it, or look for it, or discover it, or do penance for it. It is yours if you dare to allow yourself. But it must be for no reason at all.
As long as you place any preconditions on being happy then it will never be possible.
Be happy now. Choose it. Say it out loud to yourself. Say it all day if you have to. "I choose to be Happy Now."
(Notice this is different than saying "I am Happy")
What if you are miserable, in pain, scared, stressed, depressed... but you keep saying "I'm happy." You will know you are lying to yourself and it won't have much positive effect. It will probably even make you feel worse!
But if you say -- "I choose to be Happy, no matter what... I choose to be happy in this moment... I choose to be happy anyway..." You begin to empower yourself. You create an opening. A sense of hope. Because it is a truth, not a lie - that you have the power inside you - that you are the power - you are IT. You do not have to wait for something out there to save you. Even waiting for something from inside you to save you is the same thing. Decide and do it NOW. "I choose in this moment to be happy. I will keep making this choice."
There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the relief you feel when you surrender to your Self. Happiness is the natural outcome of raising your vibration. You can raise your vibration by telling a positive story about yourself and your life. Practicing selfless compassion towards others is another way. Higher vibration attracts more high vibrations. You become a positive magnet for positive people, experiences, and situations.
And what if something challenging, painful, difficult or adverse shows up in your life? Does it mean you're doing it wrong? Is it your fault? Are you a failure at life? NO!
Don't catastrophize it. Don't create more emotional drama around it. Whatever shows up in your life, it is your interpretation – the meaning you give to it – that causes the most turmoil and pain about it. Own your feelings about it, feel them, and be steady. Adversity tests us to see if we can stay rooted in our inner Self without getting swallowed up by the world. Don't view your emotions as a problem, no matter what you are feeling. And no matter what you feel, still choose to be okay in this moment.
Become conscious of the story you are telling yourself about this difficult situation. Are you telling yourself that you can only be happy if this situation goes away? Or if it is the way you expect it to be, or want it to be? Happiness and peace are innate qualities of your deepest essence. Choose to focus on your innermost Self and let go of trying to control the world.
There is no better use of your mental and emotional energy than making this choice in every conscious moment that you can.
Peace to you.
What is the life story that I am telling myself? Am I the hero or the victim of my story? Is it true, or is it just the story I have gotten attached to? Can I tell my story in a different way? If I could let go of my story completely, who would I be?
1. Simply writing about this can be a powerful and transformational process. Try writing down a summary of the story you've been holding onto. What kind of character have you been playing in your life story up until now? Write it just the way you've been telling it, and then look at it objectively. This alone will raise your consciousness...
Then write down a new version that is more aligned with the person you consciously choose to be. Your ideal self. Make up new rules for your life, new beliefs about yourself, and the kind of life you really most desire.
2. Once you identify the parts of your old story that you would prefer to change, you can use EFT Tapping to dissolve your attachment to it. Negative emotions are like the glue that holds your painful memories together. With tapping you can neutralize the negative emotions about specific past events, and re-frame the story, or ultimately, even let it go completely.
-------If you want to change your world, it begins right here. Simple steps. Infinite possibilities.
Helping my clients shift their mindset is the most gratifying part of my job.
An intuitive and non-judgemental guide and coach can provide a mirror for you to see yourself more clearly, and to help you dis-identify from the limiting story that is keeping you stuck.
Through EFT Tapping, meditation, visualization and accountability to your goals and intentions, there are unlimited possibilities for shifting your consciousness and raising your vibration.
The more you shift your self-defeating thoughts and negative emotions, the more you connect the head and the heart, and the more life flows through you and to you.
Feel free to call me to schedule a session and make the shift :)
I talk to hundreds of people who struggle with every type of emotion, trauma, fear, mental block.... you name it. In spite of the apparent differences between one person's struggles and another's, the point of change always comes with the same realizations.
The most important realization is this:
“I am the source of all that I see. And nothing is outside of my consciousness.”
This may sound like a grandiose idea. (It doesn't mean you're the ultimate creator of the Universe. Just the source of all that you see). So please just put aside your cynicism for a moment and consider this perspective. Having an open mind is a pre-requisite for any true growth or expansion of consciousness. Just an open mind.
My clients have light-bulb moments when they begin to take this idea in and start to “feel” the truth of it, rather than just holding it as an interesting intellectual concept.
If the world around you was only a dream, would you be afraid? If you knew it was all a dream, would you see any situations or people as a real threat to your well-being?
The key factor in being liberated or being disempowered is your relationship to fear.
Fear is only harmful to you when you see it as real.
We go to scary movies because we like getting scared – but it's because we know it isn't real.
We take risks because we like the thrill of overcoming our fear.
Yes, I hear some of you saying, fear is necessary to keep me alive!
I'm not talking about normal instinctive fear. Like swerving to avoid an accident. Although, you've probably experienced that kind of instinct and felt it like a slow motion scene, and felt no fear at all...
I'm talking about made up fear. Fear that is magnified by our imagination.
When life gets too scary, and we lose our power, it is because we see the threat as very real, and we see our power as very small. When you see the world as an impenetrable monster, you forget your most vital and precious gifts. You forget that it's a dream. You forget that it's a reflection of your mind. You take it very seriously and your vibration gets lower. The lower that vibration goes, the more you feel stuck in the matrix. Less energy, lower mood, more fear and anxiety, less creativity, less power, more despair and worry. It all gets very serious.
The world is not your enemy. It is your canvas. Your playground. Your hologram. Your dream.
You don't have to be perfect or saintly or enlightened to realize this. You don't have to eliminate every negative thought. You don't have to be nice all the time. You don't have to be vegan or know all the answers to life's mysteries. You don't have to be completely fearless or fulfilled or successful.
You just have to be committed to embracing this one idea. This one realization. And then you work on your thoughts.
Does this mean you don't have to take action? No!
Empowered thoughts naturally lead to empowered action. It's hard to take empowered action when you are scared to death!
When we think habitually and unconsciously all the time. When the mind is very unsettled and thoughts are constantly jumping from one thing to another, it is harder to remember that the world you see is an extension of this mind. Practicing concentration. Breathing. Doing things that help us feel grounded, calm and focused, makes it much easier to hold this idea and make it a conscious reality.
Just the act of conscious breathing can bring us to this place. Conscious breathing is the essence of Mindfulness.
When we are fully focused on our breathing we are much less mired in the mind.
EFT Tapping is another incredible tool for extinguishing negative, habitual, fear based thoughts, and quieting the restless mind.
If you want to change your world, it begins right here. Simple steps. Infinite possibilities.
Author, Ben Schwarcz
Transformational Coach, Psychotherapist, EFT Tapping Practitioner, Teacher and Author.